Tareekh muqarrar karna shadi ki pachaas sau ka qafla ho zaroori nahi hai
Har rishta duaon aur ummeedon se banta hai, aur har shaadi ka safar ek khoobsurat khwab ki tarah saja hota hai. Mangni ke baad ghar wale khushi-khushi agla qadam uthaate hain shaadi ki tareekh muqarrar karna. Sochiye yeh pal kitna saada aur purnoor ho sakta hai: do khandaan aapas mein baith kar, ek dusre ki sahoolat aur jazbaat ka lihaz karte hue, sirf chand zaroori baaton mein se ek din chun lein. Magar afsos, hamare muashre mein is saadgi ko bhi rasm-o-riwaj aur dikhawe ke lambay chakkar mein uljha diya gaya hai. Ab tareekh tay karne ke naam par itne sare log, itna takalluf aur itne gehre maali bojh ka samaan ikattha ho jata hai ke asal khushi gum hoti nazar aati hai. Is mazmoon mein hum isi fikr-angez haqeeqat par baat karenge taake hum yaad rakh sakein ke shaadi sirf rasmon ka mela nahi, do dilon aur do gharano ka muqaddas bandhan hai.
Shaadi Ki Tareekh Tay Karne Ka Marhala
Mangni ke baad marhala aata hai shaadi ki tareekh muqarrar karne ka. Is taqreeb mein bhi dekha gaya hai ke kahin pachaas, to kahin is se bhi zyada log aate hain.
Chand Log Hi Faisla Karte Hain
Mohtaram hazraat! Tareekh to do chaar padhe likhe samajhdar aur zimmedar log hi tay karte hain. Itne saare log le jaana ladki walon par bojh banna hai.
Tohfe Aur Rasoom Ka Ghalat Riwaaj
Tarfa tamasha yeh ke tamaam aane walon ko kuch na kuch tohfa diya jata hai. Is par bade aaram se kehte hain ke itna to aaj kal chalta hai. Chalta to nahin tha aur na abhi chalta hai. Lekin ladki wale majbooran lalchi ladke walon ki khwahishat is darr se poori karte hain ke hamari beti ko zindagi bhar taana na sunna pade.
Lalach Ka Anjaam
Jab ke haqeeqat yeh hai ke lalchi ka pait to qabr ki mitti se hi bhar sakega.
Khatma
Ghaur karein, agar hum sach mein rishton ko azeez rakhte hain to phir dikhawe ki is raah ko chhorna hoga. Aap hi batayein jab shaadi ki tareekh muqarrar karne jaayein to kya waqa’i zururat hai ke peechay pachaas, sau logon ka qafila ho? Hargiz nahi. Yehi to woh jagah hai jahaan hum apni samajhdari dikha sakte hain sirf do chaar zimmedar aur padhe-likhe afraad saath le kar jaayein, ek cup chai piyein, muskurahat ke saath baat karein aur tariq mutayyan kar lein. Itna saada amal, magar is se ladki walon ke dil aur jeb donon par jo bojh padta hai woh halka ho sakta hai. Yaad rakhiye, pachas logon ko le jaana ladki walon ke liye sirf mehangaayi nahi, ek aisi sharmindagi bhi ban jaata hai jis mein woh majboor ho kar lalch poore karte hain. Yeh sahi nahi. Jis ghar beti ka haath thama ja raha hai, us par meherbani nahi, sahara hona chahiye. Tareekh tay karna barkat aur sadgi se bhara ek nikah ka pehla qadam ho, na ke takalluf ki pehli seedhi. Isi mein apnapan hai, isi mein sukoon hai, aur yahi amal dusron ke liye misaal ban sakta hai.
